Happy Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day

Today is the day to honor mothers. What makes a good mother can vary considerably person to person and year to year as a child grows. For example, I thought being a mother meant unconditional love, as my children grow I realize, they too, must have some responsibility in upholding their part of our relationship. I have been blessed. My mother taught me the importance of affection and love which I passed onto my children. When I first had my babies, I assumed if I put my heart and soul into them, they would grow to be fine, young men. It has proven true, thank goodness! Raising Continue reading

Dear Woman – A Manifesto for Conscious Men

The following video was sent to me by email. I watched it with interest, appreciating the intended message, but it left me feeling mildly uncomfortable. There have been many extreme reactions to this video. The issue that many people have - and the one that left me feeling uncomfortable - is making all men responsible by issuing an apology on behalf of their gender. Also the assumption that all women are innocents. There are women who have contributed to these crimes and continue to promote an imbalance of power. Perhaps unconsciously, perhaps not. If you've ever been through Continue reading

Purgatory

Purgatory

When any of us live or work in an environment that embraces values that are in conflict with our personal values, our souls will begin a process of interior disturbance in order to remove us from that which threatens our spiritual health. Despite monetary security or reward, if we stay on a path that disconnects us from our spiritual energy, we begin the process of slow death, which continues unless something begins to change. Living Simultaneously by Jeff Patnaude I have been feeling dead. Stuck in hamster wheel hell. I've spent most of the winter trying to determine if it's my Continue reading

Forehead Tittaes

Forehead Tittaes

Forehead Tittaes w/ Marion Cotillard from Marion Cotillard Oscar winner Marion Cotillard introduces a new product to help women be taken more seriously in the workplace by wearing breasts on their foreheads. Humor is always buried in reality and this is a prime example. My first experience with a dropped, intense gaze was from a high school teacher, it was intimidating. Do you think women invite stares by what they wear or do you feel that women should be able to wear low cut blouses without garnering attention? (I'm only referring to plunging necklines here, not your typical office Continue reading

Merry? Christmas!

Merry? Christmas!

I was laying in bed after my first Christmas Eve alone and for some unusual reason I began to think about the gifts I wouldn't likely be getting in the morning. I'm sure my kids will give me something, but as teens, my gift is probably not on their priority list. I know my mother's wasn't when I was their age. You probably have decided I'm a materialistic person, but if you lived my life with me for the past 30 years, you'd know without a doubt that I'm not. I tried to remember all 45 of my previous Christmas mornings.... the last time I got a gift I was truly excited about was around Continue reading

Use Those New Toes to Give Yourself a Kick in the Ass

Use Those New Toes to Give Yourself a Kick in the Ass

Yes, those shoes are sexy, but if they hurt, don't wear them. There's nothing sexy about hobbling around in high heels because they were designed for women who only have four toes. There's nothing sexy about not being able to take that stroll after dinner because looking good in stilettos is more important than quality time with your partner. I watched a show on the news last night and was appalled; people are actually paying money for surgery on their feet so they can then spend more money on shoes. Now aside from the fact this makes no financial sense, why would anyone undergo the risk Continue reading

Evaluating Traditions

Evaluating Traditions

The other day my 15 year old son asked if I had purchased his advent calendar yet. “You know, the ones with the little chocolates,” he reminded me. I hadn’t planned to get any this year as I wrongly assumed he’d outgrown it. In that moment, I realized he hadn’t. It was a tradition that signaled the start of his Christmas season. Tradition has been a recurring theme in my life this month and not just because I will be initiating new family traditions as a single mother. Not all traditions are events that surround well-known holidays. Traditions can be personal and private as Continue reading

Flying Free

Flying Free

There is such beauty in watching the early morning sun sweep silently across the top of the light full white clouds. Golden colors of yellow and pink creep towards the small airplane I’m sitting in. The scene is appreciated all the more because this is a view I’ve rarely seen. I’m serene and realize the fear is completely gone. I flew for the first time when I was 16. My grandparents were spending winters in Florida and sent for me to visit them. There was the slight trepidation that typically accompanies something new, but it wasn’t fear. It wasn’t until my children were born Continue reading

Busyness as a Badge of Honor aka Who Made You Sheriff?

Busyness as a Badge of Honor aka Who Made You Sheriff?

There are some fantastic lines in this article by Christine Arylo who says her primary objective is to get women and girls to fall madly in love with themselves. In the article she says, "Forget Generation X or Y, how about calling us Generation E, for Exhausted!" So true. I was born on the tail end of the Baby Boomer generation or the start of Generation X depending on what article you're reading. The generation I hail from doesn't really matter, I'm too tired to care. Yes, I thought I could do it all, I was fortunate to have the opportunity. Women know they have to work Continue reading

Leaders, Followers and Those In Between

Leaders, Followers and Those In Between

I've been thinking about natural order lately. Partially because of my past, partially because of my future but also because of my present. Have you noticed, everything appears to have the ability to be split into thirds? Birth, life, death. Roots, trunk, leaves. Even the best photographs are ones in which the composition is split into thirds. And yet, we refer to people as "leaders" and "followers." This isn't just in business, but also in our personal lives. I submit a third classification: Chameleons. The people who can be either leaders or followers, as needed. They're not true Continue reading