12 Ways to Be a Better Parent in the New Year

12 Ways to Be a Better Parent in the New Year

It's a new year and many of us consider our personal goals or our career goals, but have you considered your parenting goals? Here are 12 parenting tips that will enhance your relationship with your child this year. Be consistent. No matter how tired or fed up you are, consistency is key for long-term parenting ease. The less consistent you are with your children, the harder it will become to parent them in the future.  Learn to be consistent when your children are young.  If you say you're going to do something, do it.  By the same token, never threaten anything that you can't or Continue reading

I Don’t Like My Children Right Now

I Don’t Like My Children Right Now

The following article was from a column I wrote and was published in the Wasaga Sun on July 30, 1997. I don't like my children right now. Now that you've finished gasping and thinking terrible things about me - I'll explain. I love my kids. They're the best thing that's happened to me, but at times they are also the worst. Every parent has secretly thought this, and many have hidden those feelings out of guilt and remorse for thinking it. My youngest has been sick with yet another childhood disease. He wakes up continuously throughout the night, too sick to know what he wants. Continue reading

Hypothetical Children Behave Best

Hypothetical Children Behave Best

The following article was from a column I wrote and was published in the Wasaga Sun on July 16, 1997. Growth Spurts I was a better parent when I didn't have children. My hypothetical children never tantrummed in public. They were incredibly polite. They were never out of control. They didn't climb on the dinner table when we had company. They were model citizens in restaurants. Nothing escaped my eagle eye. After visits by family and friends who have children, my husband and I would lay in bed discussing what we would do differently. Our children were perfect. Now that we have Continue reading

Flying Free

Flying Free

There is such beauty in watching the early morning sun sweep silently across the top of the light full white clouds. Golden colors of yellow and pink creep towards the small airplane I’m sitting in. The scene is appreciated all the more because this is a view I’ve rarely seen. I’m serene and realize the fear is completely gone. I flew for the first time when I was 16. My grandparents were spending winters in Florida and sent for me to visit them. There was the slight trepidation that typically accompanies something new, but it wasn’t fear. It wasn’t until my children were born Continue reading

What Does the Future Hold for my 17 Year Old?

What Does the Future Hold for my 17 Year Old?

Today I was hit by a time-marking truck. My son turned seventeen, he's in his last year of high school. It barely seems like I've been out of high school myself! In thinking back to the advice I got at his age, I would tell my son something different. There is no such thing as job security anymore, so choose to do what makes you happy. The job you want may not be in existence yet. Go to school to learn work ethic, keep your mind and options open for the future. Better yet, create the job you want! If you have children that will be or have graduated from high school recently, what Continue reading

The World Needs Different Kinds of Minds

The World Needs Different Kinds of Minds

There are many forms of inequality. One is to assume that one type of learning style or ability is better or more beneficial than another. I disagree. There is a purpose for every person on our planet, we need to determine what that purpose is rather than requiring they become something they're not. This process begins in our schools when we force children who learn differently to adapt to styles that are in opposition to their natural skills. We then point out when they fail and they lose confidence in themselves. Instead we should be embracing those differences, finding their Continue reading