Purgatory

Purgatory

When any of us live or work in an environment that embraces values that are in conflict with our personal values, our souls will begin a process of interior disturbance in order to remove us from that which threatens our spiritual health. Despite monetary security or reward, if we stay on a path that disconnects us from our spiritual energy, we begin the process of slow death, which continues unless something begins to change. Living Simultaneously by Jeff Patnaude I have been feeling dead. Stuck in hamster wheel hell. I've spent most of the winter trying to determine if it's my Continue reading

Merry? Christmas!

Merry? Christmas!

I was laying in bed after my first Christmas Eve alone and for some unusual reason I began to think about the gifts I wouldn't likely be getting in the morning. I'm sure my kids will give me something, but as teens, my gift is probably not on their priority list. I know my mother's wasn't when I was their age. You probably have decided I'm a materialistic person, but if you lived my life with me for the past 30 years, you'd know without a doubt that I'm not. I tried to remember all 45 of my previous Christmas mornings.... the last time I got a gift I was truly excited about was around Continue reading

Use Those New Toes to Give Yourself a Kick in the Ass

Use Those New Toes to Give Yourself a Kick in the Ass

Yes, those shoes are sexy, but if they hurt, don't wear them. There's nothing sexy about hobbling around in high heels because they were designed for women who only have four toes. There's nothing sexy about not being able to take that stroll after dinner because looking good in stilettos is more important than quality time with your partner. I watched a show on the news last night and was appalled; people are actually paying money for surgery on their feet so they can then spend more money on shoes. Now aside from the fact this makes no financial sense, why would anyone undergo the risk Continue reading

Evaluating Traditions

Evaluating Traditions

The other day my 15 year old son asked if I had purchased his advent calendar yet. “You know, the ones with the little chocolates,” he reminded me. I hadn’t planned to get any this year as I wrongly assumed he’d outgrown it. In that moment, I realized he hadn’t. It was a tradition that signaled the start of his Christmas season. Tradition has been a recurring theme in my life this month and not just because I will be initiating new family traditions as a single mother. Not all traditions are events that surround well-known holidays. Traditions can be personal and private as Continue reading

Flying Free

Flying Free

There is such beauty in watching the early morning sun sweep silently across the top of the light full white clouds. Golden colors of yellow and pink creep towards the small airplane I’m sitting in. The scene is appreciated all the more because this is a view I’ve rarely seen. I’m serene and realize the fear is completely gone. I flew for the first time when I was 16. My grandparents were spending winters in Florida and sent for me to visit them. There was the slight trepidation that typically accompanies something new, but it wasn’t fear. It wasn’t until my children were born Continue reading

Busyness as a Badge of Honor aka Who Made You Sheriff?

Busyness as a Badge of Honor aka Who Made You Sheriff?

There are some fantastic lines in this article by Christine Arylo who says her primary objective is to get women and girls to fall madly in love with themselves. In the article she says, "Forget Generation X or Y, how about calling us Generation E, for Exhausted!" So true. I was born on the tail end of the Baby Boomer generation or the start of Generation X depending on what article you're reading. The generation I hail from doesn't really matter, I'm too tired to care. Yes, I thought I could do it all, I was fortunate to have the opportunity. Women know they have to work Continue reading

Leaders, Followers and Those In Between

Leaders, Followers and Those In Between

I've been thinking about natural order lately. Partially because of my past, partially because of my future but also because of my present. Have you noticed, everything appears to have the ability to be split into thirds? Birth, life, death. Roots, trunk, leaves. Even the best photographs are ones in which the composition is split into thirds. And yet, we refer to people as "leaders" and "followers." This isn't just in business, but also in our personal lives. I submit a third classification: Chameleons. The people who can be either leaders or followers, as needed. They're not true Continue reading

Flying Under Bridges

Flying Under Bridges

My neighbor borrowed the audio book Flying Under Bridges (affiliate link) from the library and found herself laughing out loud in her car while she listened. Knowing I was a huge Shirley Valentine fan, she loaned me the discs when she finished with them. She was right, I loved it! Flying Under Bridges is a witty look at many of the issues we face, including equality. The author, Sandy Toksvig weaves the story with humorous sarcasm, provoking deep consideration while I simultaneously laughed out loud and yelled, "Yes!" in agreement with her human observations. Here are my favorite Continue reading

Walk with Purpose, Run with Attitude

Walk with Purpose, Run with Attitude

Three months ago I signed up for the 2010 Run With Attitude 5k. I gave myself enough time to train, but I didn't. Work got in the way and I chose paying the bills over my personal welfare. I've been exceptional at putting everything and everyone ahead of my own health. As a matter of fact, I have always struggled to prioritize fitness goals into my daily routine. The only exception was a few years ago when I found myself working part-time while my children were in school full-time; I consistently ran trails for a year and a half and I LOVED it. Over the past seventeen years I was Continue reading

Managing Responsibilities Gives You Greater Control

Managing Responsibilities Gives You Greater Control

How much control do you really have? If only that car in front of you would hurry up so you can get to work on time. If only your spouse would do a better job parenting the children. If only your employees would quit taking advantage. How many times have you felt your blood pressure rise, how many times have you repeated yourself? Nicely... and then less than nice? Perhaps even displayed unbridled anger? If you make statements like the above, you probably have control issues. Most of us do. When something isn't going the way we think it should, we look outside ourselves Continue reading