31 Days of Wishes – Building on Regret

31 Days of Wishes – Building on Regret

I just completed 30 Days of Thanks over on my blog Real Home Sense. It was a great exercise because it really got my writing juices flowing and created a habit of writing near-daily. Since I had begun looking forward to writing regularly on all my blogs, I was very happy to see the month come to completion, so I could use that time writing other content. Then Stacy and Heather decided to start 31 Days of Wishes! Just as I did when invited to 30 Days of Thanks, I chose not to do it, and then reconsidered. As I thought about the types of wishes I might make this month, I realized most Continue reading

Bringing Home the Bacon

Bringing Home the Bacon

I've been busy trying to build a couple of careers so I can go from "Mom with a Job" to "Career Woman with Kids." Lately I've felt as though I'm merging onto the Autobahn, pedal to the metal with barely enough time for a shoulder check. I've got to get there and I've got to do it as fast as possible. As I face my new career rush, I'm wondering how I'll maintain my personal and parental responsibilities, and make it through a divorce with my mental health intact. I've come to the realization that being able to "bring home the bacon, fry it up in the pan and never, ever let him forget he's Continue reading

Putting the Cap Back on is a Bigger Deal than You Think

Putting the Cap Back on is a Bigger Deal than You Think

Don’t sweat the small stuff. Don’t fight over whether the lid gets back on the toothpaste or not. As a wife I took this advice and lived it. Whether it was the lid on the toothpaste, an organized linen closet, or returning items to their storage locations, I let the small stuff go. After all, is it really worth fighting over whether the cap gets back on the toothpaste or not? I thought not. I’ve been married for 19 years. For the first 18, I was responsible for 99% of the child and house care. Not by choice, but by necessity. It felt as though no one else was going to step up Continue reading

Horton Heard a Who, Can You Hear Me?

Horton Heard a Who, Can You Hear Me?

I had the honor of participating in a webinar last night with veteran Executive Coach, Jeff Patnaude, and a group of his friends/clients. It was part of a series of topics discussing the attributes of transformational leaders and mentors. I listened as each brilliant guest shared thoughts and life experiences varying from large corporate environments to military, politics and religion. Each was insightful, interesting and included visions I may have never considered myself. I felt like a speck of dust amongst giants. I didn't have any interesting stories, nor any exotic life experiences Continue reading

It Was More Than Just a Car

It Was More Than Just a Car

"Mrs. Williams, your car was in pristine shape except for a small dent on the front side." "Yes, my husband did that too." The accident wasn't his fault, but I'm angry anyway. And relieved he wasn't hurt. Probably hard to believe since we're a month away from finalizing our legal separation. Should have been this month but the judge would only allow us to delay 30 days. Regardless, I don't wish him any ill will, I just want to get on with my life, but I can't due to financial circumstances. All our equity is tied in our beautiful house. We're drowning by upside down mortgage and he was Continue reading

Tagging Yourself as a WAHM is Bad for Business

Tagging Yourself as a WAHM is Bad for Business

I just watched a guest video post by Scott Stratten on www.jessicaknows.com where Scott suggests Work At Home Mom's should not advertise themselves as such. First, let me say, that I agree with everything Scott said. I operated my business while staying home with my kids, but rarely did my clients ever hear them. I didn't advertise that I was a WAHM (work at home mom), I refered to myself as self-employed. Why? There is a stigma attached to being a WAHM, an unwritten belief that if you've made nurturing your children a priority, you are somehow less of a business person. I don't take Continue reading

Forget the Glass Ceiling, What About The Sticky Floor?

Forget the Glass Ceiling, What About The Sticky Floor?

Over my life, there have been strides towards equality, and this past year has seen plentiful discussions of “breaking the glass ceiling” with Gov. Sarah Palin taking a run at the White House. Throughout her vice presidential campaign, I couldn’t help but wonder if a female Vice President would make any difference for the "average woman" at all. It seems to me that women still don’t have equality in their own families and the only way to make wide sweeping changes in attitudes is to begin in the home. This is the place where we formulate our ideas and raise our children with the beliefs and Continue reading