Use Those New Toes to Give Yourself a Kick in the Ass

Use Those New Toes to Give Yourself a Kick in the Ass

Yes, those shoes are sexy, but if they hurt, don't wear them. There's nothing sexy about hobbling around in high heels because they were designed for women who only have four toes. There's nothing sexy about not being able to take that stroll after dinner because looking good in stilettos is more important than quality time with your partner. I watched a show on the news last night and was appalled; people are actually paying money for surgery on their feet so they can then spend more money on shoes. Now aside from the fact this makes no financial sense, why would anyone undergo the risk Continue reading

Busyness as a Badge of Honor aka Who Made You Sheriff?

Busyness as a Badge of Honor aka Who Made You Sheriff?

There are some fantastic lines in this article by Christine Arylo who says her primary objective is to get women and girls to fall madly in love with themselves. In the article she says, "Forget Generation X or Y, how about calling us Generation E, for Exhausted!" So true. I was born on the tail end of the Baby Boomer generation or the start of Generation X depending on what article you're reading. The generation I hail from doesn't really matter, I'm too tired to care. Yes, I thought I could do it all, I was fortunate to have the opportunity. Women know they have to work Continue reading

Leaders, Followers and Those In Between

Leaders, Followers and Those In Between

I've been thinking about natural order lately. Partially because of my past, partially because of my future but also because of my present. Have you noticed, everything appears to have the ability to be split into thirds? Birth, life, death. Roots, trunk, leaves. Even the best photographs are ones in which the composition is split into thirds. And yet, we refer to people as "leaders" and "followers." This isn't just in business, but also in our personal lives. I submit a third classification: Chameleons. The people who can be either leaders or followers, as needed. They're not true Continue reading

Walk with Purpose, Run with Attitude

Walk with Purpose, Run with Attitude

Three months ago I signed up for the 2010 Run With Attitude 5k. I gave myself enough time to train, but I didn't. Work got in the way and I chose paying the bills over my personal welfare. I've been exceptional at putting everything and everyone ahead of my own health. As a matter of fact, I have always struggled to prioritize fitness goals into my daily routine. The only exception was a few years ago when I found myself working part-time while my children were in school full-time; I consistently ran trails for a year and a half and I LOVED it. Over the past seventeen years I was Continue reading

Managing Responsibilities Gives You Greater Control

Managing Responsibilities Gives You Greater Control

How much control do you really have? If only that car in front of you would hurry up so you can get to work on time. If only your spouse would do a better job parenting the children. If only your employees would quit taking advantage. How many times have you felt your blood pressure rise, how many times have you repeated yourself? Nicely... and then less than nice? Perhaps even displayed unbridled anger? If you make statements like the above, you probably have control issues. Most of us do. When something isn't going the way we think it should, we look outside ourselves Continue reading

Stuck in the Middle with You

Stuck in the Middle with You

Having been first born in my family and first among my friends to have children, be married, get divorced, the middle position isn't a familiar place to me. Yet, it seems that's exactly where I am. The middle of my life. Mid-life. I've spent much of the past couple years looking behind and evaluating. The current year has been a period of looking forward to make future plans. Helen's death stopped me in my tracks and I began to evaluate this moment of time in my life. When I met her I was a young teenager, she seemed so much older and mature. She was a single mom, working hard Continue reading

Riding the Bull: Recognizing When Resolution isn’t the Game

Riding the Bull: Recognizing When Resolution isn’t the Game

The tensions mount as you stare eye to eye trying to come to some sort of understanding. Breathing is getting heavier, blood pressure is rising, and you realize this discussion is not going to be easy. Whether it's a coworker, family or friend, you probably know a bull but don't recognize it as such. You may even be the bull! Here are three tell-tale signs you're dealing with a bull: Any request for a change in behavior turns into an argument unless you back down. There's no rational reasoning to points made when the discussion is emotionally charged. You have Continue reading

Finding Your Inner Queen

Finding Your Inner Queen

As I go through this phase in my life I've spent a lot of time evaluating my weaknesses and discovering how they've played a role in the life I've led up til now. One of my shortcomings was my behavior in certain areas of my life, particularly when it came to putting everyone else first. Instead of playing the role of the Queen, I chose the role of Martyr - and we all know how that story ends. I placed myself on unequal footing from the outset of my adult life. What I've learned, is that no matter how deserving of equality we are, there are those that will never offer fairness until it's Continue reading

Inspiration for Resolution Begins with Questions

Inspiration for Resolution Begins with Questions

How you approach life's roadblocks can make a difference in their outcome. Rather than saying "I can't" ask yourself: "How CAN I make this work?" "What can I do differently?" "How important is this to me?" "How hard am I willing to work?" Consider anything possible with the right plan and a positive attitude. By asking questions rather than conceding defeat, previously unimaginable answers will be presented and your roadblocks will dissipate. Lean on your partner when you need to, and allow your partner to lean on you. If you both work at it, you'll be stronger together than you Continue reading

The Rewriting of History

The Rewriting of History

My good friend Nathalie sent me the book eat, pray, love by Elizabeth Gilbert. It tells the author's story of her travels and personal insights after a failed marriage. It arrived the day after I signed my divorce papers. I've been trying to save it for the few days I'm taking off next week, but I can't help myself; when I have a few quiet minutes, I pick it up and read one of the short chapters. Today I read this: "I am inspired by the regal self-assurance of this town, so grounded and rounded, so amused and monumental, knowing that she is held securely in the palm of history. I would Continue reading