31 Days of Wishes – Building on Regret

31 Days of Wishes – Building on Regret

I just completed 30 Days of Thanks over on my blog Real Home Sense. It was a great exercise because it really got my writing juices flowing and created a habit of writing near-daily. Since I had begun looking forward to writing regularly on all my blogs, I was very happy to see the month come to completion, so I could use that time writing other content. Then Stacy and Heather decided to start 31 Days of Wishes! Just as I did when invited to 30 Days of Thanks, I chose not to do it, and then reconsidered. As I thought about the types of wishes I might make this month, I realized most Continue reading

Bringing Home the Bacon

Bringing Home the Bacon

I've been busy trying to build a couple of careers so I can go from "Mom with a Job" to "Career Woman with Kids." Lately I've felt as though I'm merging onto the Autobahn, pedal to the metal with barely enough time for a shoulder check. I've got to get there and I've got to do it as fast as possible. As I face my new career rush, I'm wondering how I'll maintain my personal and parental responsibilities, and make it through a divorce with my mental health intact. I've come to the realization that being able to "bring home the bacon, fry it up in the pan and never, ever let him forget he's Continue reading

Putting the Cap Back on is a Bigger Deal than You Think

Putting the Cap Back on is a Bigger Deal than You Think

Don’t sweat the small stuff. Don’t fight over whether the lid gets back on the toothpaste or not. As a wife I took this advice and lived it. Whether it was the lid on the toothpaste, an organized linen closet, or returning items to their storage locations, I let the small stuff go. After all, is it really worth fighting over whether the cap gets back on the toothpaste or not? I thought not. I’ve been married for 19 years. For the first 18, I was responsible for 99% of the child and house care. Not by choice, but by necessity. It felt as though no one else was going to step up Continue reading

It Was More Than Just a Car

It Was More Than Just a Car

"Mrs. Williams, your car was in pristine shape except for a small dent on the front side." "Yes, my husband did that too." The accident wasn't his fault, but I'm angry anyway. And relieved he wasn't hurt. Probably hard to believe since we're a month away from finalizing our legal separation. Should have been this month but the judge would only allow us to delay 30 days. Regardless, I don't wish him any ill will, I just want to get on with my life, but I can't due to financial circumstances. All our equity is tied in our beautiful house. We're drowning by upside down mortgage and he was Continue reading