Finding Your Inner Queen

Finding Your Inner Queen

As I go through this phase in my life I've spent a lot of time evaluating my weaknesses and discovering how they've played a role in the life I've led up til now. One of my shortcomings was my behavior in certain areas of my life, particularly when it came to putting everyone else first. Instead of playing the role of the Queen, I chose the role of Martyr - and we all know how that story ends. I placed myself on unequal footing from the outset of my adult life. What I've learned, is that no matter how deserving of equality we are, there are those that will never offer fairness until it's Continue reading

The World Needs Different Kinds of Minds

The World Needs Different Kinds of Minds

There are many forms of inequality. One is to assume that one type of learning style or ability is better or more beneficial than another. I disagree. There is a purpose for every person on our planet, we need to determine what that purpose is rather than requiring they become something they're not. This process begins in our schools when we force children who learn differently to adapt to styles that are in opposition to their natural skills. We then point out when they fail and they lose confidence in themselves. Instead we should be embracing those differences, finding their Continue reading

All the Wrinkled Ladies: Equal Media Time

All the Wrinkled Ladies: Equal Media Time

Growing up I'd hoped that society would catch onto the unrealistic stereotypes that media promotes through advertising. While managing retail boutiques in the 80's I knew then that our size 12 to 16's sold out a lot faster than our size 6 to 10's. Most women didn't look like the emaciated models that were on tv, in magazines and for whom they seemed to design clothes for. Fortunately, companies caught onto this double-digit sized market, and there are some half-decent fashion choices for larger women now. What surprised me over the past 20 years is that media hasn't become more Continue reading

Mother’s Day Gifts

Mother’s Day Gifts

The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new. Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh Does setting aside a day to recognize mothers suggest we don't have to appreciate them the other 364 days of the year? Expressing gratitude for those who have helped us grow should be a regular occurrence. Make Any Day Mother's Day My grandfather regularly brought the investment of my grandmother's time and love to the family's attention. He didn't wait for a national day of recognition; he let us Continue reading

Inspiration for Resolution Begins with Questions

Inspiration for Resolution Begins with Questions

How you approach life's roadblocks can make a difference in their outcome. Rather than saying "I can't" ask yourself: "How CAN I make this work?" "What can I do differently?" "How important is this to me?" "How hard am I willing to work?" Consider anything possible with the right plan and a positive attitude. By asking questions rather than conceding defeat, previously unimaginable answers will be presented and your roadblocks will dissipate. Lean on your partner when you need to, and allow your partner to lean on you. If you both work at it, you'll be stronger together than you Continue reading

International Women’s Day Celebrates Past Present and Future

International Women’s Day Celebrates Past Present and Future

International Women's Day celebrates the economic, political and social achievements of women past, present and future. Women have many achievements to be proud of. The equality we enjoy is the result of the work of women (and men) before us. And yet, even in North America, many of us experience the residual discrimination leftover from years when we were not so fortunate. Regardless, none of us can deny we are lucky in comparison to women born in many other countries. The following video asks the question: "If all women had rights equal to those enjoyed by men, would there still Continue reading

The Rewriting of History

The Rewriting of History

My good friend Nathalie sent me the book eat, pray, love by Elizabeth Gilbert. It tells the author's story of her travels and personal insights after a failed marriage. It arrived the day after I signed my divorce papers. I've been trying to save it for the few days I'm taking off next week, but I can't help myself; when I have a few quiet minutes, I pick it up and read one of the short chapters. Today I read this: "I am inspired by the regal self-assurance of this town, so grounded and rounded, so amused and monumental, knowing that she is held securely in the palm of history. I would Continue reading

C’mon Baby, You Know You Like It

C’mon Baby, You Know You Like It

"The slutty party girl is fun until she pukes on the floor and then she's a pain in the ass." House, Season 5, Episode "Lucky Thirteen" What's interesting about this statement isn't just the obvious inequality of how males use females; it's not always a male-female issue. She's great as long as she's entertaining "me" but as soon as I have to take care of "her" I'm not interested. Another way of saying it? "Do Me, Do Me, Do Me." "eeewww I have to do you?" It's not just men who have this issue. How many women do you know that eagerly lay back to enjoy special treatment Continue reading

Doing Less for Self Care

Doing Less for Self Care

Midlife can be a time of crisis. I suppose it's referred to as a crisis because many people choose not to look inward and determine why they're unhappy. They look outward and try to appease the unease with cars, possessions or affairs. Although all are tempting, I chose to consider midlife, not as a crisis, but as a re-evaluation. I knew the goals my partner had were different and he was never going to help me achieve mine as long as he was living his. I wanted simplicity and comfort. I wanted to accumulate life experiences, not possessions. Taking care of a home and children is a Continue reading

I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar

I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar

I spent two hours listening to my mother talk on New Year's Day. On one occasion, when she let me get a word in, I reminded her about the year she left my father and bought a house. We spent a great majority of our free time dancing to the following song as it blared on our stereo. Although I'm sure the prospect of being alone terrified her, I remember that period as the most fun I've ever had with my mom. Suddenly, I had to hear the song again. I downloaded it on iTunes and played it for her over the phone. The words remain fantastically motivating and empowering for women, so I Continue reading